Blood is only a liquid that gives life…not compassion
As the years go by, slowly, just when I think I've see the worst that family can do to each other…I see yet another disgraceful act of unkindness…
I saw him roll into ICU, attached to a ventilator, with a chest tube draining blood, lines measuring his blood pressures, medications infusing intravenously, and a bag where blood had been infused during surgery. I couldn't help but think…who's blood???
It really didn't matter, as he needed it…and as soon as he was settled into ICU, the empty bag was taken down and he began to awaken, still with a tract tube in..helping him breathe…he made it through a double bypass. My mother held back her tears as she breathed with relief.
So, I began to wonder…Is blood really "thicker than water".. As the old saying goes?? Technically, yes…but metaphorically…NO.
How sad these simple minded, pathetic excuses for humans are. They are ignorant, lazy, disgusting and hopeless.
To ignore your own father, a single dad that worked more than 50 hours a week to raise you, he gave YOU everything he could possibly give, yet…when he needed YOU most…as usual- YOU were not there.
YOU lay at home, drawing tax payer money as your salary, pretending to be "disabled" and ignoring a man who spent time in ICU, wondering if he was going to live, see his son again…time ticks slowly for someone longing to see their child who they love more than anything in this universe that we know exists…. YOU are an overweight, washed up, leech on society…. YOU are a poor excuse of a man, much less that of a father yourself…………. YOU are a 40 something redneck that continues to live with your in-law parents…pathetic…looser is such a cliche' yet so fitting for YOU.
Then, there's the sister/aunt/sister-in-law….I'm shocked at the lack of concern although I shouldn't be…time and time again…. disappointment. I had hope for the relationship of the 2 sisters…but that's done. I see no hope for these middle aged siblings and it's so sad. They will die strangers and probably unknowing of each others death. The miles that separate them are nothing in comparison to the heartache that separates them. So much time has passed….WASTED time…how sad….I have photos of sisters who use to laugh together, shop together, cook together, and just love to be together…wow, it seems like that never existed, again…so sad….growing up, a child loves her aunt and thinks she will be there for her family…a family- who stood by her during her darkest moments and deepest secrets….yet, she coldly ignores. I'm ashamed to call her "my aunt". She was so much in the eyes of a child, beautiful and loving…but now, she's NOTHING…I will always miss my "aunt"…however, it's hard to miss NOTHING.
The Uncle/brother/brother-in-law has always been a waste of…someone who has never amounted to anything but a huge disappointment to his parents… so the fact that this "waste" did not respond is not only - not surprising but typical. She should not have wasted her effort to press the send button on that email. Another leech on society that is always wanting a handout…yet can't keep a job…..why am I wasting the time to blog about him???
I am reminded once again of just how lucky I am. I have those around me who care, and I'm so grateful.
I have observed- There are those who learn and grow with their minds and their hearts…..And then, there are those who remain stagnant as simple minded "folk" and seem to become toddlers as they age- depending on others, holding grudges, throwing temper tantrums and shifting the blame.
The irony that time forces us to take, some recognize….and some are just too stupid to recognize, too stupid to understand, too stupid to learn…and just plain too stupid.
Sadly, family as in "blood" means absolutely nothing…………. Family, as in "compassion" means everything.
October 27th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Unfortunately the niece has never heard the Aunt or Uncle’s side of things. Or maybe she would not be so quick to judge. As far as I am concerned all was “forgiven” years ago. As far as relationship that takes two! Prayer was lifted up for Gene and family. I believe that is the best someone can do for someone that is hurting. The Aunt has always loved the niece and has keep up with her accomplishments through the years. I wish her and her husband the best. She would always be welomed to our home.
The Aunt
October 27th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
Unfortunately the niece has never heard the Aunt or Uncle’s side of things. Or maybe she would not be so quick to judge. As far as I am concerned all was “forgiven” years ago. As far as relationship that takes two! Prayer was lifted up for Gene and family. I believe that is the best someone can do for someone that is hurting. The Aunt has always loved the niece and has keep up with her accomplishments through the years. I wish her and her husband the best. She would always be welcomed to our home.
The Aunt
March 23rd, 2010 at 11:23 am
As mentioned from the above aunt. People don’t realize what’s going on in other peoples lives. She lashes out at everyone else, maybe because of her own down falls and jealously. The father part that was spoken about, I could care less of what she has to say or think. She is the one that’s gotten everything and still can not manage her own life. At least when my wife got pregnant we kept our child. We didn’t decide to give it away. We had and still have people around us that love us and our children and will do anything they can for them. Her parents didn’t say the first thing about not wanting the baby. They were going to raise it whether I was there or not. Most upstanding people stand up to their mistakes and take them head on instead of running away from them. I hope some do you’ll see the light. Your more than welcome to check my medical records. The aunt was right on another note. It takes two for the relationship. It also has to be done without lies to the son and grandchildren. That doesn’t make for a good relationship, now does it? I hope you do well and get everything your want, because I’m sure you’ll get everything you deserve.
March 23rd, 2010 at 12:59 pm
01. “She lashes out at everyone else, maybe because of her own down falls and jealously.”
Jealous of what??? … I mean honestly… jobless redneck who still lives with his wife and three kids at his in-laws house.
02. “I could care less of what she has to say or think.”
Then why do you even bother posting a comment on this website if you could care less?
03. “At least when my wife got pregnant we kept our child.”
I will commend you on this one that you stuck it out to have a baby with your girlfriend and live with her at her parents house for the rest of your life! Bravo Sir!!!
04. “Your more than welcome to check my medical records.”
That sure was nice to see you carry a bag full of heavy sporting equipment with someone with serious back problems… I got a great photo of it too… Wonder what the records day about that.
05. “I hope you do well and get everything your want, because I’m sure you’ll get everything you deserve.”
Me too, because we work hard so yeah we do deserve it all… Thanks!
March 23rd, 2010 at 3:40 pm
As I rarely comment on my own posts, I can’t help but feel the urge to shout out a Thanks to my Hubbie, Austin- well said!!
I only want to point out what seems to be a very significant piece to the Rednecks comment:
“At least when my wife got pregnant we kept our child. We didn’t decide to give it away. We had and still have people around us that love us and our children and will do anything they can for them. Her parents didn’t say the first thing about not wanting the baby. They were going to raise it whether I was there or not. Most upstanding people stand up to their mistakes and take them head on instead of running away from them.”
Calling your own child a mistake- wow! And then confirming what we all know to be true…”Her parents” were and continue to be the providers for you own family, so sad…
Because of MY decision to give a child a better life and future with a prominent family in New Jersey instead of being raised by a sixteen year old, a very excited couple who had been wanting a baby for years finally had their dreams come true- and that’s NO mistake!
March 23rd, 2010 at 5:28 pm
For your information she has lost 2 babies in the past 14 months. Now smart off about that.
And just what has your dad lied to you and the grandchildren about? Nothing!!
Also, for your information her parents and stepdad allowed her to make her own decision regarding her child. There was no pressure on her either way. I had friends come and tell me what an unselfish act it was to give up her child because they couldn’t have children and that was the only way they could have them. By someone unselfish enough to share.
Also, she has family around her and supporting her everyday. We don’t smother her.
As for lying to someone your wife has the market cornered on that.